Month: February 2016

5 Tips on How to Overcome Fear of Rejection

Love is a universal emotion. People want to find their own true love and live a life that is full of happiness and contentment.

According to surveys, most people say they would like to marry someday. The primary path towards marriage is dating and courtship. In the United States, 53% of all respondents to surveys have even said they have dated more than one person at a time.

However, even if dating is crucial, that does not always mean it is easy. One problem is that many young men have a fear of rejection. It is important to overcome this fear, so here are five ways to help you do so and actually have fun.

  1. Add some sparkle to your personality

According to statistical reports, almost 30% of females in the United States who are engaged in dating have said that the most important attribute they looking for in a guy is personality. Not looks, not big muscles, not a macho attitude. Personality.

So don’t worry about looking like a movie star. Concentrate instead on projecting a positive impression through self-confidence, a good sense of humor and your ability to carry the conversation.

  1. Be cool

always project an air of self-confidence, (but not arrogance). The worse thing to do is appear to be desperate for a date. Project the impression that you’re asking a girl for a date because you like her, not because you’re desperate for a partner.

  1. Don’t worry about rejection

Remember that even those who think they have the best car, good looks and a dazzling personality, can be rejected. Everyone must face rejection at some time or another.

Reflect on the cause of why she might reject you, but do not dwell on it endlessly. Learn from experience and move on.

  1. Consider the ‘no’ of the girl

Do not assume that a girl says knows simply because she does not like you. She may simply not be able to go out on the night you asked her for. Maybe she is already accounted for. Simply move on to someone else.

The problem is that many guys take it too personally when the girl says no. It is far better to analyze the situation calmly and dispassionately.

  1. Be casual

Give the girl a good idea where you intend to go when he ask her for a date. The girl may be thinking “ballroom dancing” when in reality you have in mind bowling or pizza and a trip to the movies. “Dating” can seem heavy and intimidating if you use that word instead say something like, how would you like to join me for pizza at Giordano’s end a trip to see that new blockbuster at the Art theater? My treat!

 

Tips to Attract Women That Really Work

I’m sure men all around the world reading this article would be eagerly anticipating some magical tips to attract women that are going to get them closer to the ladies and ensure that they get them when they want them! However, let me tell you right here that I am no magician, and can only help you if you are willing to help yourself. The magic, so to speak, lies within you.The first of the major tips to attract women is to consciously make efforts to know what kind of a person she is. Very often, it so happens that even men who are genuinely interested in a relationship come off too hard and seem like they are only interested in the physical part. And this is why I am insisting that you need to show her that you want to know more. Ask about her hobbies, her favorite movies, what is her job like, how does she spend her free time. Not only will this give you some input on what kind of an individual she really is, you would also make a favorable impression, a win-win situation.

Next, you really need to be someone she wants to know more about, and the best way to do that is to come off as someone who stands apart from the others. For instance, many men might have a regular opinion about something, like a painting, but if you show her something that is an unconventional opinion or unique side of the story, it could be one of the best tips to attract women that could ever work for you.

And lastly, you need to show her that your company is going to be interesting. No woman wants her man to be a bore, and you sometimes need to go out of the way to show your funny side, or how you are interested in things that interest her, like sports, art, theater, etc. This is also one of the major ways in which you would get women interested in you.

Tips About Decorating Your Home Theatre On A Tight Budget

If you are fortunate enough to be building a space in your home that is dedicated to the intention of watching movies or as being a home theater it only makes sense that you would like to decorate the room in a way that is completely befitting of its purpose. You can find amazing options available within this growing market of decorating and customarily, there are prices that are designed to match. The good thing is that while art often imitates life, there is absolutely no reason that we can’t imitate a few of the great art we see within the movies or on televisions shows inside our homes-at a fraction of the cost.

First of all, a really good home theater is an investment, particularly those that are generally used in private rooms. With that being said you will want to decorate your room in ways that will not distract from your movie watching experience. There are several ways you can do this and many of them come at rather hefty costs for your average consumer. You do not have to acquire special lighting at $500 a pop when it’s possible to go to your local lighting or home improvement store and find excellent wall sconces that is to be perfect for your home theater at a fraction of the cost that you can will find them at specialty stores serving those building home theaters. For further low lighting options you may use inexpensive strings of rope lighting or perhaps Christmas tree lights so that you can provide some light without risking a glare on screen.

Rather than hanging expensive drapery about the walls in your home theater it is possible to apply textured paint in dark colors to prevent distracting glares. Your local retailer may encourage one to soundproof your walls and you are the only person that can really decide if which is necessary. I personally would pass, particularly when your home theater is going to be in a very basement, which is typically somewhat taken from the rest of your home and your family area.

As far as flooring goes, darker carpeting is a good idea in most areas though possibly not the most effective in a basement. Cork makes a good flooring selection for basement floors as is functions muffle sound from escaping the room in addition to a natural resistance to moisture related problems that may occasionally arise in the basement. It is also a very inexpensive flooring material that is highly underrated.

Furthermore, i recommend dark furnishing for your home theater. A good choice might be darkly colored sectional sofas if you need the family to enjoy the space together. I additionally recommend beanbags or other special seating for that little ones who may enjoy your home theater as well. This gives them their particular seats and helps eliminate some of the bickering and squabbles that often arise over premium seating space.

I can agree that you do not have to spend a fortune to create a great atmosphere that is totally conducive with an overall pleasant movie watching experience in your home theater. While I don’t recommend a great deal of clutter over the walls in this particular room you can do great things with plastic popcorn boxes and flameless tea light candles over the floor. Let your imagination present creative choices to the big-ticket items you see inside specialty shops you’ll be pleasantly surprised about some of the neat things you produce.

Ten Tips For Acting

You can improve your acting, dramatically on your own, or with a friend, by doing some simple, easy-to-do-things, and they won’t cost you a thing. First and most importantly:

* Consonants – Learn to speak clearly. Practise your consonants. That is the single most important and dramatic way to improve your acting ability. Enunciating clearly does not just reflect the language of newscasters and aristocrats. it allows a person to transcend their local unintelligible dialects. Dropping consonants is a casualty of daily interaction, lazy shorthand with friends, family and colleagues. Consonants give shape to the emotional resonance of vowel sounds. Vowel sounds coming from the actor suggests the feeling inside and consonants let the audience know what that feeling is. Consonants are like the frame of the house. They give it shape. Learn to exaggerate those consonants.

It may sound highly unnatural at first, but after a while, it will become more natural, and will become a ready-to-use and important tool in landing roles. You should practise hitting the consonants in the middle and ends of words. Playing spaces can vary in kindness to the ear. For instance, the sound in the theater might not travel. It might reverberate. It might be perfect. Film, and television can have varying qualities in the sound equipment and sound mix. With certain films at a key point, I’ve had to play that moment over and over again to make out what the actor said. Be kind to the aging and hearing impaired. Speak clearly. Practice it everyday. Don’t think that by dropping consonants you are being real or true to your art. Instead, you are being hard to hire.

* Imagination – Get your imagination in fighting shape. Look at a play and use your imagination to get inside the character’s head, inside their heart, inside their soul. Your imagination is a powerful tool we all share. We might be different physically, in looks and talent but we can all harness that power of imagination. If a writer is portraying life on the streets, then use your imagination to find that character within you. If the character is the president of the United States then use your imagination to pick up the ticks and tricks of the trade. Imagination is the single most important tool you have to get inside the head of another character. It is the single most important tool you have to inhabit the world of the play. Having all the talent and the tools in the world will not mean anything if you lack imagination.

Your imagination can only be fed by learning as much as you can about the world around you. Read novels, history, and see films and plays, listen to music and play games. Imagination can take you places where technique and talent can’t. It allows you to walk with kings and queens across moonlit desert sands. It allows you to close a drug deal in a back alley. Imagination allows you to breathe life into words on a page and translate them into a living world for the audience to see. Flex the muscles of your imagination, spread your wings and soar above the earth like Oberon and Titania in A Midsummer Night’s Dream.

* Projection – You need to be heard. While not so important in film and television, it is important in the theater, and theater is an easily accessible way to get into acting, to acquire the skills needed to succeed in other mediums. Theater is the best way to make connections that can help further your career, so learn to be heard. Don’t be shy. It is your right to be heard. Go in a big room, open your mouth and aim your voice at the back wall. Focus on that back wall and your voice will travel there, even in a large room. Use your diaphragm, the muscle under your ribs to push the air and the voice out. Most people speak with shallow breaths. They talk so not to be heard. Talk to be heard. Check out books by Patsy Rodenburg. Her books are goldmines of technique for improving your acting ability with regards to speaking.

* Nouns and Verbs – Nouns are the subject of the sentence. The noun is the thing, the person, or the place that you are talking about in a sentence. The audience needs to know who that person is, where that place is, or what that thing is that you are talking about. Learn to track down the primary nouns and secondary nouns in a sentence.

Say the lines out loud with an emphasis on the nouns. Play with the relative importance of the nouns and pronouns (he, she, him, her, they, you, and so on) Get different meanings out of a line by switching the importance of various nouns and pro nouns. The verb is the active word driving the line to its conclusion. It is essential for an audience to hear what actions are happening in a line. Don’t fall in love with pretty descriptions so much that you give adjectives and adverbs precedence over nouns and verbs. Adjectives and Adverbs describe the nouns and verbs. They are less important. Don’t make them more so. Let the audience in by letting them know what you are talking about. Nouns and verbs are essential to that communication between performer and audience. If you ignore that, you are going to find it that much tougher to get roles.

* Upward Inflections – This is another important tool for the actor. Many inexperienced actors throw their energy into the beginning of a line, but as they run out of air, the ends of their lines are dropped vocally, which is completely at odds with natural speech. In natural speech, the speaker organizes his thoughts to say that he or she is going to do this, or to go there. What are you going to do? Where are you going to go? These are questions that the last word or two in a line answers. If you pump all your energy, adrenalin and breath into the beginning of your line, then you have nothing left for the end of the line, nothing left with which to answer those questions.

A rush of energy at the beginning of a line, while perhaps exciting for the actor becomes monotonous to the audience. It becomes a predictable succession of vocal peaks and valleys, where the beginning is loud and the end of the line quiet. Do that for too long and the audience will be checking their watches. They won’t have a clue what you are saying. Learn where to breathe in your lines, and pay attention to punctuation breaks. Find ways to keep the energy up at the end of a line. Don’t plan to leave tired-endings for the other actors to pick up. If you end a line with a word supported by breath, it transfers energy to the next line. It keeps the energy of the play crackling.

* Monologues – A monologue for the purposes of an audition can be a soliloquy, a private speech between actor and audience, or it can be part of a conversation with another character. It should be about two minutes long and be uninterrupted by other characters. Find some monologues that you can use for audition pieces. Look in real plays for these monologues. There are many free monologues on the internet, but many of them are not going to help you land parts. It will probably be useful to have two classical pieces, one comedic and the other dramatic. Shakespeare is usually a good choice because you can find recordings or movies that have those monologues in them. Then you should search for a modern dramatic and comedic monologue. Search for these monologues in highly regarded plays, plays that have been on Broadway for instance or those that have been turned into movies. The reason for that is that you will have better luck researching them and finding recordings for them.

However, before you listen to any recordings, or watch any filmed versions, you should do your own work, your own investigation into who the character is and what he is doing, what he is feeling, and what he is thinking, where he has come from and where is he going. The monologue has to travel from the beginning to the end, and you should map whatever change in emotions there might be, when the tempo picks up or slows down. Does the monologue grow in rage? Does it trail off in despair? Find the drama, the irony, the comedy and it’s timing. Find the humanity in the piece. You should learn the character inside and out. Learn these monologues so well that you can do them spontaneously. Don’t give yourself an excuse for not getting a part with a poorly-prepared audition piece. Blend your thoughts, your emotions into the character’s thoughts, emotions and words. Read as much as you can about the character and then listen to a recording or watch a filmed version. You will now understand the character and so hearing or viewing this monologue will give you additional ideas and insight.

* Study other people – Be a student of people. Be a student of people from all walks of life, the rich, the poor, the young and the old. Study their physicality. Watch people walk and listen to them talk. Listen to the rhythms of their speech. Watch people when they sit, when they stand, when they are passionately trying to communicate something or when they seem disinterested, when people are happy, or sad or angry or sleepy. What body language do they use? Imagine what goes on in people’s heads. Find two similar looking people and look for clues to their personalities by their posture, by how they move, look for physical clues that might suggest why one ended up one way and one another. How much does nature and nurture have an influence on human beings? Watch what people are doing when they are listening to each other. What do they do with their hands? What do they do with their hands when they speak? Be a student of body language. Shakespeare said that the actor must hold a mirror up to nature. To act, you must reflect what real human beings do. As an actor you are interpreting the human condition, the poetry and music of human emotions, thoughts, actions and communication.

* Read – Read plays, read books about acting, read about famous actors, read acting biographies, read anything. A well-rounded knowledge is essential for an actor. Not only is it important to know about acting, but it is important to know history, religion, psychology, geography, science, so read, read, read. Reading gives you your own credible insight into lines written by playwrights and screenwriters. People who write, read a lot, and to gain insight into these characters, you must read a lot. One casualty of theatre schools is the ability to understand the world. There is not enough contextual knowledge provided in these schools devoted only to acting. Know the world and you will know how to act.

* Get in shape – Treat your body as a temple. Eat right and exercise. Plays and films can be demanding physically. The more you can ask your body to do, the better physically you can fit into a part. If you have a certain physical trait that your character needs, you need to be able to achieve that. Physical activities, like dance, or karate, or running, or yoga, or sports of various kinds can help you prepare physically for demanding roles. There could be dancing, sword-fighting, and other acts of physical exertion needed, while all the while being able to deliver lines supported by breath. Your mind and your body, voice and movement, are the tools of the actors trade. Take care of them.

* The Internet – There is a lot of free information on the Internet. There are many acting tips that are available for free. Arm yourself with as much knowledge as possible. There are a lot of really helpful suggestions for actors out there. Most of the free information is really geared for beginning actors and many of them don’t identify technique or different methods in more than a superficial method. But more advanced information can be found in things such as Google Books. The more research you do, the more information you can unlock on the Internet.

Obviously, there are scams out there. There are scams everywhere, and would-be actors are targeted in the real world as well as on the Internet. The more homework you do, the better, and as long as you realize that if you have drive, and are willing to work for what you want, that there are no short-cuts, then you have a good chance for success. But anything you read can only be reinforced by working with others. You cannot act in a vacuum. So to truly succeed you need to be working with other like-minded individuals.